Everybody’s got something to say about what you do.
People you know, people you love, people you hate. Even people you’ve never met in posts like this one.
They tell you what to do, who to be, and how to live.
“But nobody who tells you what to do actually knows what’s best for you. So stop listening to them.”
People don’t know you as well as they think they know you.
No matter how long you’ve known a person, they don’t know the real you. They know the version you choose to share with them which might be 80% of yourself, but it’s never 100%.
The advice they give you can only be as successful as the amount they know about you — the real you.
People tell you what they WANT you to do.
Even people with the best intentions are influenced by their own desires.
They want you to be happy and successful, but in a way that fits their own definition of those terms.
That definition may not match your own.
People tell you what they WOULD do.
The advice people give you is based on what they would do in a similar situation.
But what they would do is based on who they are, not who YOU are.
Their intentions may be genuine, but the reasoning is often misaligned.
People don’t know what you should do either.
Just because somebody has an opinion about what you should do doesn’t mean they’re right.
Opinions aren’t facts. Take them for what they’re worth.
People are jealous of you.
Not always. Not often. But sometimes.
It’s not pretty, but jealousy exists and it clouds the advice you get from certain people about certain situations.
People want you to change.
Just because somebody loves you doesn’t mean they love ALL of you.
They may want to change something about you and that bias colors the advice they give you. But the thing they want to change about you may be a thing you love about yourself.
People DON’T want you to change.
Other people may love you so much the way you are that they fear your growth may impact your relationship with them.
But it’s in your best interest to evolve into the person you want to become and the life you want to have.
Beware the person who fears your evolution.
Other people are not you.
Ultimately, it comes down to this.
You are the expert on you.
Nobody can know what’s best for you better than you can so trust your instincts, stop listening to others, and own your decisions.
You’ll be glad you did.
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